I am the mother of 3 daughters - yes my poor husband.

My middle daughter is a red head and has a fiery temper. At two we thought it was terrible twos. At three we thought she just had not grown out of the terrible twos. By the end of her third year we knew something was amiss.
We did the district's "Head Start" program and they determined she had at least two delays which qualified her for their "special needs" preschool. At four she started school in our district with an IEP.
She talked really loud and really fast with odd pronunciation. My older daughter who was 5 was the only one who could understand her and she translated. Her other issue was non-compliance and biting. Non-compliance was mostly shutting down and hiding under tables and she would become aggresive if she wasn't left alone.
The preschool was awesome. The teachers wrote off her IEP at the end of preschool and said most people didn't know she wasn't one of the "pier models" in the class.
Kindergarten went to pot extremely rapidly and thus begun the nightmare.
By first grade all professionals involved were treating her as though she had Aspergers and we were in agreement. It took 2 years to get a diagnosis. We wasted a year on a waiting list at a first rate hospital with no communication. Then we got her name on the list at KU. They gathered data and one year later we had our appointment.
Very thorough. End result PDD-NOS. Just missed Aspergers criteria. Apparently she was too coordinated and too many facial expressions. They also told us her IQ was 3 plus standard deviations above normal. (We knew she didn't have a deficit but what did this mean?) They also said it could very well be higher but she didn't fully cooperate.
....and then we knew.
We moved to Frisco, TX when she was 8. She is now 11. My search for a connection and knowledge led me here.