My daughter is 26 years old. She lives on her own, has achieved a two year associates degree at the local junior college, and has worked full time since she graduated high school. She is very successful on some levels, I believe because of her inability to be flexible. For example, when she decided to lose weight, she stayed on her diet, even during special events, first dates, vacations, etc., and lost 47 pounds. When she decides to save money to purchase an item, even years down the road, she never deviates from the plan, no matter who she stresses out along the way. In other ways, she struggles desperately. Her social skills are terrible. She has difficulity understanding boundries and has little compassion for the feelings of others. She doesn't make good eye contact when talking to people and conversation does not come easily to her. She was diagnosed with language impairment in grade school but stayed in main stream classes and graduated on time, even though she had very few friends. Because she comes from a family full of sales persons and she has always worked in some type of customer service (ie. cashier at McDonald's, Walgreen's, Home Depot), she has learned to communicate on a surface level fairly well. And, she is very attractive, which is currently giving her many social opportunities with men. She is good with her money and a wholesome, hardworking young woman, with her own house. These things make her attractive to many people. However, what concerns me is that she never really connects with anyone emotionally. As soon as they start getting close to her, she gets confused as to how to handle these intimate relationships and deals with them inappropriately. She has no siblings and I am just worried that she will not ever be able to really find someone who gets her. I am her mother and I sometimes can't connect with her. Does this sound like Aspergers to anyone out there? Should I talk to her about this? Is there a support group for high functioning adults with Aspergers Syndrome?
Hang in there!
You may want to read Michelle Garcia Winner's Social thinking curriculum - it is a great resource for individuals who struggle with same things your daughter does.
Cristina